The Race Issue

Kim Mclarin's article "Race Wasn't an Issue to Him, Which Was an Issue to Me," explains Mclarin's reasons for grappling with race. She is a middle aged black woman who has taken race by the horns all her life. I feel as though her argument is terrible. She has so much useless information that I could probably condense her entire article down to one paragraph if I wanted to. There is too much detail in her mundaine convorsation with Jerry. I think she might just be trying to draw attention away from the fact that she has almost nothing to actually support what she is saying other than the fact that she is a black woman dealing with white men. Her only decent support for her entire article is when her mother received a lesser quality of medical care than her white ex's sister did, but even this has holes in it. She doesn't say whether or not they were in the same hospital, what their medical probelms were, or even exactly why she considered her mother's treatment to be worse than her ex's sister.
She says at one point in her article that her ex felt as though she was "looking for race." I feel as though her ex nailed it on the head. She mentions an incident when, "a white woman reached up, uninvited, and petted [her] locks like she was petting a dog." What if the woman had been black? What were the circumstances? Would it be different if the woman had been patting a white woman's head, and how do we know she doesn't do that on a regular basis, regardless of race? I feel as though this sort of "looking for race" situation occurs far to often in todays society. I know this is coming from your average, middle class white guy but why can't we jsut let it go?